I hope you will have time to address this or email me personally. I enjoy your blog and read that you and your wife are starting IVF treatment. I’m desperately seeking information on payments for multiple cycles. My clinic (and it seems most clinics) have different fees for 1-, 2- or 3- cycle options ($6900 for 1 cycle, $11000 for two, etc..) If you pay for 2 cycles but get pregnant on the first cycle, they do not issue any refund. I can’t understand how they justify this policy. It just seems like an unethical policy that takes advantage of desperate people. I guess I am wondering if you know this is a fair practice or an issue that the infertility community can address?
I saw your book featured on my Shelf Awareness email, and would love to read and review it. I skimmed your blog today and added it to my reader to come back and read more later. I have to admit, I was laughing and your embarrassing injuries!
Enjoy your blog…hope you read my email. Wishing you all the best from IOWA!!!
I saw the article about your book in the Tribune this weekend - first, congratulations to you (and your wife)on your success with IVF/beating the infertility monster and with the book. I just wanted to say how much I appreciate that people are spreading the word on the challenges of infertility - my husband & I are coming up on 6 years and are the only ones among our siblings yet to start that family. It’s a tough road, but having resources like yours will spread the word and generate more of a community of support. Best of luck and continued success with your journey.
Hello, I just received your book from a man I work with. His name is K. Schmitt (Initail to keep SOME privacy) I read it in one day. We have been trying for 6 years now to be disappointed with a miscarriage approxiamately 2 years ago. We live in Winterset, so reading your book, I was very familiar with things you wrote about. So happy that you are finally pregnant!
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Thank you so much for your book, Maybe Baby. Thank you for finding humor in such a gut wrenching experience. I absolutely could not put it down once I started reading. I am so glad that you and Constance finally got to hear that beating heart. I dream of that day and know that when you’ve worked that hard to hear it, it will make if that much more magical.
My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant since May 2007. We assumed that since we are both young and healthy, it would happen right away. Now here I am, lounged back in a computer chair, healing from a laparoscopy/hysteroscopy. My tubes are both open, which to others would not sound like a big deal, but it is a blessing to us. I hope that I will soon be graduating from this infertility nightmare.
I just wanted to thank you. I needed your book, and just came across it at Barnes and Noble. I am so glad I picked it up and started reading. It was a breath of fresh air.
Matthew, I read your article in the Tribune last month and I passed on the information to my yoga students as I am a fertility yoga teacher at Pulling Down the Moon in Chicago. I was moved by your story and asked the students how we might be able to support the couple that you’re sponsoring for one round of IVF. We decided that two complimentary private partner yoga sessions may be welcomed. Please let me know if this would be appropriate and where I can send my contact information. You can visit my blog to learn more about my qualifications and history. Good luck tonight, I hope some of my yoga students attend Woemn and Children First and bring their husbands. I would be there if I wasn’t teaching another fertility yoga class tonight. Take care, Jenilyn
Hi Matthew, Hope things are going well and you are enjoying the holidays. I was hoping you could mention my yahoo infertility support group on your blog. It’s a group that was developed to help support those undergoing infertility and infertility treatments. Here is the link: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Infertility-and-Beyond/
Thanks so much!
Happy Sunday Matthew!
My husband and myself both love your site and with a 1 year old and a 2 year old and tons of kids in our lives, we can truly soak up (and use/laugh about) the content you provide. Not unlike the innovative concept, ParentsDigest (parentsdigest.com). I wanted to introduce you to it and see if you could pass the information along for my friends that started it.
In a nutshell, it’s CliffNotes for parents. The website is the inspiration of a Marin couple, Pam and Jack McLaughlin, who found themselves in a non-stop world with three kids under the age of three. Needless to say, there was no time to scour through books to learn about topics ranging from two year old meltdowns to bringing up children in a green, healthy environment. But, as their children grew and life became a bit more manageable they had a moment to breathe and gave birth to a great idea.
Why not summarize top-notch parenting books and share the best bite sized nuggets with over-tired parents? That idea is the inspiration of ParentsDigest.com. An experienced editorial team writes concise eight page snapshots of parenting books so parents don’t have to try to comb through them. Topics range from babyproofing your marriage to dealing with meltdowns to handling poor sleep habits to overscheduling and overstimulating your children.
They have a variety of book summaries specific to Dads including: Strong Fathers/Strong Daughters, Father Your Son, The Gift Of Fatherhood, Fathering From Afar, etc.
With the new year, there are also great summaries on teaching your children about finances (esp. important in this economy) and helping children deal with divorce (did you know that Jan. is the busiest month of the year for divorce lawyers?)
At any rate, I really hope you will consider this for maybebabyblog.com. It’s a great resource for parents (I can say so first hand) and I think it would be great for your readers. It is truly a great find.
I’m reading you’ve been a busy guy! Loved your book and can’t wait to hear from you regarding more writing….this time for the Husky. Let me know on that front. When I see your parents, I’ll let them know how much I enjoyed the book too. I never knew how much trouble some people have to endure to become parents….you two will be great ones!
A local Iowa girl!
Hi Matt -
My husband and I just finished reading your book and it was quite the inspiration. I am 30 he is 35 and we’ve been trying for 2 years. The state we live in does not mandate insurance to cover treatments so we are kinda going at it on our own. Due to a health condition my husband has his medications significantly lowered his counts. We’ve been told my the doctors if he can stay off the medications they counts should naturally go back up within 4-6 months. We are about 3 months into and it’s not been easy for him without medications. His doctor said to take L-Carnatine … I noticed in your book you were eating pumpkin seeds, etc. Can you explain to me some of the natural foods, vitamins, etc you tried? Thanks and congrats on the baby!
Last summer my husband and I found out that there was a reason to our pregnancy less marriage. We’ve been trying for 3 years and unfortunately my husband was diagonsed with male factor infertility. I picked up your book at Barnes and Nobel and it really helped us out!!!! It was just nice to see that we’re not the only ones. :o) Thank you for taking the time to make this book! We are now getting ready for IVF this May. I know you guys are ready for your little one to arrive any day and I was just hoping you had some recommendations on how to make our IVF as big a success as yours. I am sooooo excited for you guys! I’m sure you can’t wait!
Thank you for taking the time to answer this whenever you have time! :o)
I just love reading all your notes. I am so happy for you. Your precious baby has good loving parents and is much loved. I will continue to enjoy reading all your posts. Thanks so much for sharing.
I found your book at Ollie’s in Ohio, its at outlet store of sorts, even good books make it to outlet stores! Anyways, I have kind of a different story relating to infertility. I was married for 23 years to a man with a sperm count fluctuating between 3 and 6 million sperm, and we were told by doctors that we would never conceive on our own. Two months after finding this out I was pregnant, without any help from the medical profession. Anyways, after that first pregnancy, we didn’t worry about using protection and I had 5 more pregnancies, 6 children with an infertile man! Then he had a vasectomy. I was between the age of 23 and 31 when this all happened. When I turned 41, my husband and I separated and I turned 42 and became pregnant again with the man I was currently seeing at the time, no troubles getting pregnant, about 3 months of unprotected sex. So now having said that and having 7 children, I am now engaged to a wonderful 34 year old man. I am 45. He has no children of his own and we would like to have a baby. We had been having unprotected sex for 6 months or so with no results, so we went to a fertility doctor. My significant other has a count of 43 million, doctor says he is fine. I come to find out though that even though I have had seven kids and my hormone levels are checking out fine, that I only have a 1 percent chance of ever conceiving Brian’s child. The doctor sent me away with a 4 month prescription for Clomid. Two months into taking the med and no results. I decided this month to take a break. The doctor says my eggs are too old for envitro-fertilization. I would need donor eggs. It is very depressing to be in a great relationship but have this thing hanging over us. I do feel like I should let him go to find someone to have a baby with if I can’t provide one. It is sad how life is sometimes. I barely had started your book and came on this site to see what happened for you and your wife! I am happy for both of you and your daughter, everyone who wants to be parents should be given that opportunity! Anyways, thanks for your humorous outlook to the frustrations of trying to conceive!